Monday, 15 June 2009

• A Series of Fortunate Events

  On May 3rd last year I wrote a post that garnered a fair bit of attention; I was and still am proud of that post, not for the attention but for its content; what I didn't know at the time was that it was to be the first impression I would give to my soulmate.

  She left me a comment, and we were quick friends. She supported my campaign in Xangan Idol 2, and we enjoyed each other's blogs. After a while, though, we didn't talk much any more. I was busy with my personal life and too many Xanga contacts to handle; she changed her user name a couple of times, and I lost track of her. We reconnected from time to time, and we became friends on facebook as a way to stay connected better after one such time, but we still didn't keep close contact.

  May 21st of this year she wrote a short blog called "This is my final goodbye." I just happened to catch it when it popped up in my inbox, and I was concerned because I wasn't sure whether it meant she was leaving Xanga or planning to die; I've seen too many instances of each. I tried to read the post but couldn't because she was on friends lock, and I, apparently, was no longer her friend (she says she doesn't know how that happened, but bygones). Later, I saw that she had updated on facebook, so I was relieved to see that she was okay, and I left her a wall post.

  She wanted to talk with me about what had happened, so she tried talking with me on facebook chat, but it wasn't working very well; we kept getting disconnected because facebook's servers are rubbish. Thus we decided to move the conversation to MSN. I quickly realized how much I enjoyed talking with her, but I thought of nothing other than being close friends because she was happy in a long-standing relationship, and we were decidedly not even attracted to each other. In the course of the conversation we shared pictures and jokingly flirted on facebook [note to anyone who saw that: it wasn't at all serious, just the result of our refusals to back down on dares to say outrageous things], but it didn't click in our heads until later that there was actual romantic potential between us.

  Then we started talking on skype, and that was when it clicked. It was complicated by the fact that she still loved her boyfriend, and I didn't want to interfere in that, and she didn't want to be that kind of person, either. Nonetheless, I realized that she was everything I had hoped and dreamed of finding in a woman and so much more... from an objective perspective, and her thoughts on me were much the same. I can say for sure that it was objective because I'd known her a long time and never been infatuated, but she met all the criteria on my list - which was more than I had been realistically expecting from anyone - and even exceded them by having such a plethora of other positive qualities. Only after that realization did we start to think there could be something more.

  Now we return to the problem at hand; she wasn't single. I never encouraged her to leave him; in fact I insisted upon just the opposite because I know what it's like to be on the other end. It was, of course, unnecessary; she's loyal anyway. The point, as it turned out, was moot, because shortly thereafter the internal problems that had been building up in that relationship came to a head (read: having nothing to do with me), and he left her.
  On June 4th, she agreed to be mine and vice versa.

  I realize that might not sound like much of a romance, just a bunch of details (some of them admittedly not ideal), but what I've failed to convey up to this point is what it is that I love about her (you can feel free to draw your own conclusions on why she loves me, though I'm sure she's more than willing to tell).

  She loves God; she's not afraid to tell anyone so, and she stays active in her church. We read the Bible together and pray together all the time, and it's enjoyable to do so, not one of us pushing the reluctant other.
  She loves me completely and without reservations, just as I love her, and she makes sure I feel loved.
  She accepts me despite my flaws.
  She treats me with respect and kindness.
  She's straightforward, frank, honest, and open in discussing everything with me.
  She's very supportive and understanding.
  She insists on working out any problems we have immediately and not letting them hide and fester.
  She doesn't drink, smoke, use drugs, curse, or have any vices.
  She's sane.
  She cares deeply about other people, and she passionate about helping.
  She's financially responsible. She earns a living, has no debt, has savings, and is frugal.
  Shs's healthy with no allergies or dieases or defects.
  She doesn't have any tattoos or weird piercings or other body modifications.
  She speaks five languages and has a passion for learning more.
  She's sweet and adorable.
  She's very intelligent and a great writer.
  She stays well informed on current events.
  She loves to read.
  She has great taste in movies and music.
  This isn't comprehensive; there's nothing about her so far that I don't love, so there's plenty I'm leaving off of here.
  Oh yeah, and...
  
  Isn't she lovely?

  

  

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